First Time Giving a Blow Job ? Here’s What to Know

Janet’s Story: My First Time Giving a Blow Job

I want to share what it was like for me the first time giving a blow job. It wasn’t something I rushed into, I took my time and made sure I was comfortable.

I met a few men on internet through local group chat rooms that were meant for men-to-men conversations. Even though I’m a woman, I found that space welcoming, and it offered a bit of privacy and directness that I appreciated.

I had a pretty specific idea of what I wanted. For me, I was only interested in giving, not receiving. A lot of the guys I chatted with were hoping for both, but I made it clear early on: I just wanted to give a blow job, nothing more.

And that’s okay. You should always be honest about what you’re looking for. I also preferred men who were around 30 or older, it was just a personal preference.

Eventually, I found someone who respected my boundaries and was on the same page.

Before anything happened, we met in a public place. I think that’s an important step, especially for a first meeting. We had coffee and a relaxed conversation.

He looked like his pictures, was kind, and respected everything I had mentioned online. When we both felt comfortable, we agreed to meet again, this time at his place.

Before anything started, we talked. He told me what he liked, and I told him it was my first time giving a blow job. That honesty helped a lot. He guided me through what he enjoyed–starting with me gently rubbing his crotch over his pants. It actually helped me relax and get a feel for things before diving in.

I remember slowly unzipping his jeans and letting them drop.

It felt a little surreal, but exciting. He stood there and I could tell he liked being watched. I told him his cock looked amazing and asked if I could lick the head. That kind of communication made it all feel mutual, not one-sided or awkward.

I went slow. I think that’s the best advice I could give anyone trying this for the first time. Teasing a little, using your tongue lightly, and just being in the moment, those are things that make it enjoyable for both people.

I cradled his balls softly and let him guide my head a bit. Not having my hands on his cock made the visual more intense for him, and I could tell it added to the connection.

You have not reached the point where you are in total control

It’s not always about taking control, but about creating a space where both of you feel free enough to surrender. You don’t have to dominate the moment to shape it. Sometimes, it’s even more powerful to let him feel like he’s the one guiding things. The feeling of control will give him the ultimate pleasure.

I paused with His Cock just Barely out of My Mouth

I looked up at him, his breathing was heavy, his face flushed. He was right there, teetering on the edge. I wasn’t planning to stop him. I just wanted a moment, a connection. Quickly, I looked into his eyes and softly said, “Tell me what you want me to do while I’m down here. Talk to me.”

I didn’t really need an answer. I think I just liked asking. As I said it, I leaned forward and let my tongue gently flick across the tip of his cock again, drawing a small moan from his lips. It was more about building something than chasing a goal.

One hand slid behind him, resting on his hip, grounding us

The other gently moved across his balls, light and slow. I never liked putting my hand on his shaft, it interrupts the flow, makes it feel mechanical. I wanted this to be soft, organic, unrushed.

As he moved gently in and out of my mouth, I teased the underside of his shaft with the tip of my tongue. I could feel how close he was just by the way his breath caught when I moaned softly.

When I needed him to slow down, I simply pressed my hand a little firmer against him and held him in my mouth for an extra beat. He understood. No words needed.

Then came the part that always drives them wild, when I let my tongue wander. Soft, slow movements from the tip to the base, tasting every inch of him, no rush.

I worked my way down, exploring with intention, and eventually let my lips find his balls. If he was comfortable with it, I let my tongue explore there too, playful, curious, never forceful.

Sometimes I’d glance up and see him watching, now holding his own shaft, slowly stroking, lost in the moment as I focused on his balls. I’d switch from one to the other, savoring the little sounds he made.

At some point, I would ask, casually, “Do you want to finish like this, or should I take you back in my mouth?” Usually, they wanted both. Who could blame them?

When a man’s that close, it’s a different kind of energy–intense, shaky, vulnerable. Some like to finish in your mouth, others on your skin. I’m open to either, depending on how we feel in that moment.

But I always make space for a little communication, even if it’s nonverbal. A soft glance. A breath. A hand guiding, or asking to be guided.

And when he was finally there, right on the edge, I gently shifted my hands, palms flat against his stomach, not to stop him, just to be present. If he wanted to go deeper, I let him know where my boundary was, with touch and rhythm.

When he started to stroke himself right in front of me, I leaned into it. I wanted to be close for that moment. And when he came–hot, breathless, shaking, it felt like something shared, not just something done to him.

Afterward, while he was still catching his breath, I moved back in. I always liked the part where things slow down again.

I kissed his stomach, licked his balls gently, and finally, slowly took his softening cock back in my mouth, not to finish, but to care. To close the loop.

Looking back, I’m glad I was honest about what I wanted and took my time.

My first time giving a blow job was nothing like what I expected, it was better. Calm, exciting in its own way, and very personal. { Having an honest sex conversation is important }

If you’re thinking about your first time giving a blow job, be clear about your boundaries, meet safely, and don’t rush. The right partner will respect that, and you’ll have a much better time because of it.

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