To be polyamorous means to have an open romantic and intimate relationship with more than one person at the same time. Ethical, consensual and non-monogamy describe relationships in which all parties know and consent to this way of living. Consent, awareness and jealousy-free are essential.

Polyamorous does not have to be both ways. It could be that only one has an extra partner while the other does not. It also doesn’t mean fucking around with new partners.

Polyamorous vs polygamy

Polyamory is having intimate relationships with more than one person at the same time. A polyamorous person has one or multiple additional romantic partners in his/her marriage. Polygamy, on the other hand, involves multiple wives, a tradition in many ancient cultures.

According to accepted laws, polygamous relationships between consenting adults are OK, but polygamous marriages are not. A polyamorous relationship between consenting adults is perfectly OK, but a polygamous marriage is not.

Polygamous relationships are considered by some couples for a variety of reasons

Polyamorous relationships are neither better nor less desirable
than monogamous relationships.
As per usual, it all depends on the individuals involved in it and their level of maturity, integrity and experience etc.. For some it can be heaven and for others it can be impossible. For sure it is only for those where the relationship has a foundation of trust and deep love. Cause the funny thing is, the deeper you love, the more you wish for the beloved to have everything. If you don’t love, you wouldn’t care.

When it comes to whether it’s her or him in a relationship who’s having an additional partner, or both, there’s no rule of thumb. It all depends on the individuals, their similarities, their differences, and their desires as well. Often it is bisexuals who’s having an arrangement like this, because like that he/she can live out desires for both genders.

In this regard, I can only speak about our situation and my individual thinking. I want to share this with you so that you can make your own decisions based on your own situation. For us and me as the older man the only constellation would be her having an additional beloved or FwB (friend with benefits).

As she’s clear on not wanting threesome or having sex with someone without feelings, other options like having another man joining us into our sexlife or other variations isn’t an option for us.

The main reason for our consideration is the huge gap in age between the two of us and the fact that we have different experiences. There is however an inherent absurdity to this, pragmatically explained with a couple of questions and answers:

According to my own experience

What makes me think it’s okay for my dark, young, sexy, and attractive beloved to date another man instead of only benefiting himself?

<> Because I love her. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t care.

<> I’m older, I think back on all my own erotic excitements, I think like a pragmatic mature man who’s not giving up anything by this.
All I do is be the adult who can see backwards, while my beloved is young and has no way to see the possible positive sides ahead.

<> It brings me erotic excitement to think of the sexy black beauty with a potent younger stallion bringing her to another level of pleasure.

<> A pragmatic question to ask is, is anyone hurt by it?
No. Is anyone losing anything? No. Are we all profiting? Yes

<> Marriage isn’t a guarantee of love and friction free days, day in and day out.
Is there anyone who can tell if this isn’t strengthening the relationship, increasing love, and providing greater happiness?

<> Confessing again, Uuuups, sometimes in my fantasies, while being alone and horny, I feel like wishing to be her Daddy, where my naughty girl asks like “Daddy, can I please sleep over by my new date, please daddy?”.

<> A younger girl can and should profit from a lot of sex, that’s just natural, and females are not limited by managing to have a hard cock. So pragmatically thinking, why the heck not profit from it, while losing nothing.

What’s the point of giving her the choice to date others when she only wants me?

<> As a mature man, I should be able see further than her.

<>My cock isn’t as hard, strong and lasting as she could benefit from, and she deserves to enjoy and experience a guy just a bit older than her too, so I just ask, “Why not…? ”.

<>My belief is that it gives more than she/we can see, and that it will strengthen our love and desires rather than weaken them.

<> Due to our given facts, with age differences, fantasies, and all, there are only beneficiaries and opportunities, while there are risks, but less than seeing each other only.

What’s her thinking about it?

<> She’s afraid she might fall in love with the other, and lose her love for me. 

<> She doesn’t want another man, because she loves me and that’s all she wants.

<> She is open-minded and wants to explore new things gradually, so she is open to it some time in the future.

What is the conclusion for us?

<> Since we are enjoying our love and have no space or need to go ahead with this, we focus on our own relationship while exploring the world of erotica.

<> Our age also gives us more opportunities for exploring a wider spectrum of erotic and sexual pleasure, so we want to be creative and explore together for the time being.

<> As long as we have both sides open to whatever the future holds, we accept and cherish his erotic fantasies and desires, using them for our own pleasures now.

What people want out of relationships isn’t fixed. Some people wish to care less about what society thinks we should do when it comes to our personal expression of love and intimacy. Instead, they want to care more about what feels joyful and fulfilling for an individual or a couple, and for those we love. Choose your own path. Practice talking openly about sex.

It’s imperative to be realistic about what can happen in a relationship and a polyamorous relationship. There’s plus and minus on both sides, and that are different for all couples and persons.

When entering into a polyamorous relationship, it’s important to be realistic about what can happen.
There are pluses and minuses on both sides, which are different for all couples and people.

The Cuckold vs. the Polyamorous

There seems to be a general attitude that if a man allows a woman to have a lover, he is now “cuckolded”.
It’s possible to want your wife to explore her sexuality, to be happy for her enjoyment, to enhance your sex life, or to turn you on – none of which means you’re now a cuckold.

There’s a main difference between a cuckold and a polyamorous relationship, in the polyamorous relation Love, affection and Consent is key, whereas in cuckolding it’s more about a single unknown Bull fucking a beloved for the pleasure of the cuckolded.

Social Stigma

The social stigma associated with CNM remains despite the fact that a significant percentage of the population engages in some form of CNM.
The term CNM is generally associated with negativity or unethical behavior, but often this is because those who describe or mean something about it are partial.

However, trust is the first thing that needs to be established. It’s also about being open. As well as being aware that Polyamorous doesn’t play with whoever walks into your life. In many couples who’ve lost their excitement for each other for numerous reasons, a polyamorous relationship could have been a positive experience for them.